I know some view this scene from the fantastic movie Notting Hill, as really cheesy but I for one have always looked at the acting of Julia Roberts in this moment of the movie, as some of her finest work and the one line:
“I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her.”
For me is one of the most beautiful lines in a movie, I have ever heard, because I can relate to what she is saying.
I’ve just returned from Paris and I’ve had some time to spend, thinking about relationships and romance. My husband and I went away to celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary, so this became the perfect opportunity. More about this soon, when I write about our visit to Paris on Eurostar in the near future-as Paris Week!
As I grow older, I reflect on the changes in my life – especially my emotional life and I am now consciously becoming aware of what I enjoy, what sustains me – fulfills me and brings me joy.
Intimacy – especially emotional intimacy.
Intimacy with those people I connect with. Want to spend time with. Those people, I want to connect and converse, share and simply be present with – whether it’s over a bottle of wine, a beer or simply a cup of tea.
One of the most beautiful songs I’ve ever heard, is written by the band Snow Patrol: Chasing Cars. The words of this song express everything that I have ever felt about my husband and my desire for our marriage over the years.
What’s your song?
There was a point in my marriage, when it began to break down. This song at the time said everything I felt, thought and wanted. It shared my hope, depth, desire and needs. Our travels took us around the world and as we did so, I slowly healed myself, as I turned my attention to the world which stimulated my senses – day in and out. Disconnected from society, rebuilding intimacy within our marriage. Having fun with our kids and re-affirming life in all its colourful glory.
25 years of marriage – 21 years of being a parent with all the magical, difficult and wonderful changes it brings, has me hopelessly reflecting on the good and bad, happy and sad times gone before. As I spend a little time in intimacy, with me. I stroll through my life over this time, pruning, plucking, watering, nourishing and pulling out the weeds.
I stand atop a mountain and look down on those moments during their growth and upbringing – looking on in wonder at what it has meant to me to be a wife – a mother – a daughter – friend -sister and ‘in law.’ Reflecting on the seriousness with which I have always taken my important relationships – stepping in honestly and with love and care, as much as possible. Observing the demise of some and the growth of other – my mistakes and accomplishments.
So I wonder what kind of person are you; would you lie with me and just forget the world?