As a Human Being I value connections, especially deep personal ones. My children and my husband come before anyone else. So it interests me immensely, how anti social – social media, can feel, as I develop my blogging business.
My professional background has previously been in Humanistic Counselling, a career that validated my belief and views in connection, love and understanding of the human race. Many a time I felt that as another word bubbled to the surface, developing my knowledge in human emotions and feelings. The analytical ways in which the mind worked made more sense.
The saying Seeing is Believing, was adapted between a friend and I during our professional training. We decided very early on that Feeling is Believing. Recognising that from birth, emotion and feeling are the ways an infant connects with the world initially, as they are slowly socialised within family and society. Deciding that the reality of living comes through the deep level feelings.
I felt that I was being given a gift from God . Something precious to be treasured, to handle with care and not abuse. Could it just be the value judgement I place on human lives and living.
Yet I find myself at times, investing more of my personal time and effort in building something that another can pull the plug on, disconnect from or block in an instant. In one press of a button, I am gone – it’s as easy as that. The fragility of this practice is not lost on me.
So ironically enough, it is here, online, that I choose to explore this subject, share my thoughts and experiences with the ether and offer up a desire to connect and build relationships, not just with those close but also with others around the world.
As a child I loved having a pen friend – Fabian. She lived in France and I would wait for the days when a letter would drop onto our doormat,french stamp attached, her address written neatly on the back.
There was something so physical in touching the envelope, I would smell it- to see if I could bring to life the aroma of France, then would slowly pull out the wafer thin paper from inside and listen to the stories of a french girl, similar in age. Absorb her expressions in the activities she was doing, how her school and social life were going and feel so impressed at how well she wrote in English, whilst I got by with just a couple of words in french.
My desire is to share my love of the world, with others. The adventures I take, the explorations I go on and the lessons I learn. Inspire and encourage others to step out of the norms of every day life and take a chance at doing something different. I desire to make others lives easier.
In Australia, New Zealand and the South Pacific, I discovered my freedom, with my children I discovered and connected with my love and learnt to use my mind in a different way than previously known. In connecting with them, I also connected and learnt a lot about myself, my beliefs and the sacrifices I was prepared to make for another human being.
Now as I write: marketing, branding, search engine optimisation, bounce back rates, views, visitors and clicks are starting to fill my days, yet at the same time I am disastisifed with the lack of interpersonal connections within my life as I stride forward day by day.
Do people truly want to get to know one another. It is possible for another to step out of themselves for a few short moments – can one person support another in their sadness, yet at the same time help them work towards their happiness. I do believe we can.
How do you find the wonders of the internet are helping you to connect or do you find it shallow and disconnecting?
I’d love to know your thoughts…